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Transcend your old patterns of love and dating – and align to a “next level” romantic relationship.

Are you a woman who is age 40+ and ready to find your “Mr. Right?” More importantly, are you also ready to stop dreading the process of dating? Are you ready to leave behind your dating & relationship doubts, struggles, and failures from the past? Are you ready to stop using superficial strategies to find love?

Instead, are you ready to:

  • Show up with authentic confidence, clarity, and magnetism?
  • Set and maintain healthy boundaries while simultaneously being truly open to receiving love?
  • Communicate in a way that is powerful AND compassionate?
  • Be authentic and unapologetically YOU in all interactions and relationships?
  • Align all core aspects of yourself (body, heart, mind, spirit, and energy) to your highest version of love?
  • Feel a sense of ease and empowerment while dating – and even have FUN?!?

Yes!?! Then you’re in the right place. My mission is to help you re-write your dating and relationship story and FULLY Align to Love!

“Lauri’s loving presence allows for deep insight and transformation. She recognizes the uniqueness of each person and facilitates a natural unfurling of wisdom and potential. I feel safe and held with her and highly recommended working with her – regardless of the stage of dating or relationship you are in.”

Joy Taylor, Author of Inspired: Seven Wisdoms of a Soul Inspired Life.

Welcome to Aligning to Love!

Hello! My name is Lauri McKean and I’m a Love and Dating Mentor. My passion is empowering women to manifest the deeply romantic, loving, and supportive relationships they desire and deserve. (I must admit that it’s a pretty awesome job!)

Empowering and supporting women has been a passion of mine throughout my adult life – and the focus on love and dating is just the latest incarnation. I know from experience that the more women feel loved and supported the more impact they have throughout the world.

I also know that the journey to “next level” love for women – especially those who are in midlife and beyond – often involves deep personal and spiritual growth. It’s a process of going deep and learning to love all of our parts. It’s a process of unapologetically claiming our needs, desires, and authentic selves. It’s a process of stepping into our true power – while simultaneously opening up to receiving love.

I don’t believe that manifesting the love of your life happens by luck or by chance. I believe that it is a process of alignment – on many levels. It’s about aligning the clarity of your relationship intentions with your actions, thoughts, energy, and how you are being in the world. (This is easier said than done, but that’s where my expertise comes in!)

Thus, I take a stand for women not only experiencing exceptional love but growing, evolving, and becoming more empowered and aligned in the process.

I stand for these things because I endeavor to live and embody them in my own life and relationships. But this wasn’t always true for me.

My Relationship Story

For most of my adult life, I thought I was “good” at relationships. Since age 21, I had been in stable, long-term, live-together relationships with very little overt drama – even though there was discord under the surface. Each one would eventually begin to deteriorate slowly until I would finally leave. In my mind, I felt I was doing everything right, but I told myself that the relationships kept ending because I hadn’t yet found the “right” person for me (which can be a nice way of saying that it was all the other person’s fault). 

At the age of 46, I walked away from the fourth consecutive relationship of this nature. While it was tempting to blame my ex and label him as yet another “not right for me” person, I luckily found myself pivoting out of that pattern. Instead, I began to take some responsibility for what had happened. I realized that I was the common denominator in all four of the “failed” relationships and that I needed to search inside for a way to change the prior dynamic. 

I’m incredibly grateful that I took two years to be “intentionally single” and to focus on myself for a change. I dove into my own personal and spiritual development and began to dissect the energetic, behavioral, thought, and emotional patterns that were no longer serving me – especially within my relationships. 

While I read a lot and studied intensely with a couple of mentors, I was also deepening my understanding of energetic principles. At that point, I had been studying Tai Chi, Qigong, and Chinese Medicine for over 25 years but had never really applied and integrated them into my journey with romantic relationships. Doing so was a game-changer! I also began studying the energetic Art of Feminine Presence program which further shifted my perspective and how I showed up in the world. The overall changes were quite palpable, and I was certain I could be free from my old relationship patterns – and that I was ready to align to a “next level” love.

And Then There was Dating

But now I had a different problem. I had never dated before – even in high school or college. All of my past relationships had been with people I had known already, and the romance evolved from there. (How strange it was to find myself not knowing how to date at age 48!)

I was also living in a very sparsely populated region and knew that I would likely need to go online to meet someone outside of the immediate area. Thus, I was suddenly faced with not only the reality of dating for the first time in my life – but online dating no less! This was daunting to say the least.

So given these circumstances, what’s a gal to do? Well, initially I stalled and did nothing. Then I jumped into several online dating sites/apps and stumbled my way through the initial stages. Luckily, all the deep mindset, emotional and energetic work I had done turned out to be a wonderful foundation for the ups and downs and twists and turns of dating online.

During two years of exploring the online space, I went through many of the stereotypically “negative” experiences. There was the guy with the photos that were outdated and very different than the “in person” version…the man who insisted we were destined to be together even though he was 30 years older and across an ocean…the guy who went from warm to HOT – only for him to decide he didn’t have time for a relationship…I even got to experience dating a bonafide narcissist for about a month…and there were more!

Through it all, however, I became more and more comfortable with myself and the process. I felt emotionally stable, and I didn’t get distracted or waylaid by the typical emotional rollercoaster. I was able to work through any trigger and just simply move on. I became skilled at communicating my needs and boundaries – while still being compassionate – and felt grounded and secure.

In short, I had fun in the process, used every moment as a learning opportunity (not only learning about dating but also more about myself), made some great connections with men who are now friends, AND…

Two years, into the process, I met my beloved sweetheart Thommie! (Ironically, he had also taken two years to be “intentionally single” and introspective about love and relationships.) Within a month, we both canceled our online dating subscriptions and have been loving, laughing, and building a life together ever since!

And the great news is that everything I honed in my dating experience (skills, mindsets, energetics) has proven to be equally valuable within our partnership as well. I feel grateful and blessed that many harmful relationship patterns from my past have shifted dramatically.

Mentoring Others Became the Next Step

 For several years, I had been facilitating an online program teaching women the power of integrating more Yin (feminine) energy into their lives and businesses. The women in my ongoing group had heard reports of my dating journey and then my relationship with Thommie. 

One day, they reflected back to me, “Lauri, you have to teach a program about love and dating! You have no idea how valuable your perspective is – and how different your dating experience is from most other women.” Initially, I laughed and dismissed the idea. There was no way I could picture myself as a typical dating coach. 

It didn’t take long, however, for me to realize that I had a wealth of knowledge and a perspective and skill set that would be extremely helpful to the women who resonate with my deep, holistic approach and focus on alignment – physical, emotional, mental, and energetic. (If you’re looking for advice on glamour shots, I’m NOT your gal.)

If you are one of these “alignment” women, I invite you to learn more about me and the programs and services that I offer. I also encourage you to check out the free resources I have developed just for you! 

Most of all, I encourage you to schedule a complimentary clarity session with me on Zoom. It’s a wonderful opportunity for us to chat, get to know each other, and see how we might work together.

I can’t guarantee that you’ll manifest your “Mr. Right” after working with me. However, I can guarantee you’ll be in more alignment with your vision for a romantic partnership – and thus more likely to attract him. Equally important, I’m certain that you’ll gain valuable insights and tools that will be beneficial to any future relationships – as well as ALL aspects of your life.

Here’s to us all Aligning to Love!